“Good Life” tools from The ELF –
“Dismantle Your Boxes”
In “Go to ELF!” connecting with the Eternal Life Force, the ELF tells Tony that he had built a mental box around a challenge that he had and that the reason he couldn’t see a very obvious solution was that the walls of his box limited his view of possible solutions..
As soon as Tony released his self-imposed barriers, a simple, more than satisfying solution presented itself.
“Does everyone build boxes like I did?” Tony asked
“Everyone – and most people don’t even know they have built them,” the ELF advised.
We build boxes whenever we pre-suppose our limitations. This particular situation, shared by Rev. Wendy Craig Purcell, is about her experience in knocking down the walls of a box of limitation that she experienced when her church bought a new building.
It was an unusual building for a church to begin with. It was located at the mouth of an industrial center in a three story brick building that the developer had completed on the exterior, to stand as a model for the style of buildings that would be built throughout the industrial center; but he had never finished the interior of the model building.
What they bought was an empty, three story shell. They hired an architect to finish the building to meet their needs and the first question he asked Wendy was where she would like to put the front door.
“Well, I’d like it here, with easy access from the parking lot and away from the traffic,” she told him, “but because of the way the building sits on the land, I realize that isn’t possible.”
“Lesson #1 in the art of building design.,” the architect told her. “Never let problem solving interfere with decision making.”
Think about it, because that was exactly The ELF’s message to Tony. Look at the big picture and figure out what the best possible outcome will be for you. As soon as you do, tools and resources and support people will come into your life to help you create the solution you really want – in spite of what appear to be obstacles.
Here’s a way too common example. You own your own home, you’ve lived there for years and it was the perfect home for you and your family. But now you are retired and the upkeep is eating onto your income, which is much less than it used to be. You can see your savings slipping away to pay for the upkeep.
Here’s your box. The house is costing you too much to keep and if you sell it, you release your last major asset. When the money you make from the sale of the house is gone, you’ll have nothing else to live on that you can identify right now. So you’ve gone back and forth between two choices – keep the house . . ., sell the house . . ., keep the house . . ., sell teh house . . .until you’re going crazy.
But if you stop, and ask yourself, “What do I really want? If there were no limitations, what would be my real choice for a retirement home? Then relax and let your inner wisdom offer you solutions – all sorts of solutions will appear; which might include but are not limited to a smaller house, a condominium, a rental apartment, a roommate, a reverse mortgage, a minor remodel to allow for a tenant, etc.. Once you have a new vision, you can open to a new plan and then all sorts of new solutions are revealed..
Have you boxed yourself in lately? Are you jockeying between limited choices and none that really satisfy you? “I can’t do this because . . ., but I can’t do that either because . . .”
Ask yourself this. “If I had no limitations, what would be the ideal solution?” Almost certainly it will alert you to a third choice (or more) that, although you probably wouldn’t have ever considered it before, will provide you with all the desires of your heart.