“Good Life” tools from The ELF –

“Dismantle Your Boxes”

In “Go to ELF!” connecting with the Eternal Life Force, the ELF tells Tony that he had built a mental box around a challenge that he had and that the reason he couldn’t see a very obvious solution was that the walls of his box limited his view of possible solutions..

As soon as Tony released his self-imposed barriers, a simple, more than satisfying solution presented itself.

“Does everyone build boxes like I did?” Tony asked

Sandy's ELF -7“Everyone – and most people don’t even know they have built them,” the ELF advised.

We build boxes whenever we pre-suppose our limitations.  This particular situation, shared by Rev. Wendy Craig Purcell, is about her experience in knocking down the walls of a box of limitation that she experienced when her church bought a new building.

It was an unusual building for a church to begin with.   It was located at the mouth of an industrial center in a three story brick building that the developer had completed on the exterior, to stand as a model for the style of buildings that would be built throughout the industrial center; but he had never finished the interior of the model building.

What they bought was an empty, three story shell.  They hired an architect to finish the building to meet their needs and the first question he asked Wendy was where she would like to put the front door.

“Well, I’d like it here, with easy access from the parking lot and away from the traffic,” she told him, “but because of the way the building sits on the land, I realize that isn’t possible.”

“Lesson #1 in the art of building design.,” the architect told her.  “Never let problem solving interfere with decision making.”

Think about it, because that was exactly The ELF’s message to Tony.  Look at the big picture and figure out what the best possible outcome will be for you.   As soon as you do, tools and resources and support people will come into your life to help you create the solution you really want – in spite of what appear to be obstacles.

Here’s a way too common example.  You own your own home, you’ve lived there for years and it was the perfect home for you and your family.  But now you are retired and the upkeep is eating onto your income, which is much less than it used to be.  You can see  your savings slipping away to pay for the upkeep.

Here’s your box.  The house is costing you too much to keep and if you sell it, you release your last major asset. When the money you make from the sale of the house is gone, you’ll have nothing else to live on that you can identify right now. So you’ve gone back and forth between two choices  – keep the house . . ., sell the house . . ., keep the house . . ., sell teh house . . .until you’re going crazy.

But if you stop, and ask yourself, “What do I really want?  If there were no limitations, what would be my real choice for a retirement home?  Then relax and let your inner wisdom offer you solutions – all sorts of solutions will appear; which might include but are not limited to a smaller house, a condominium, a rental apartment, a roommate, a reverse mortgage, a minor remodel to allow for a tenant, etc.. Once you have a new vision, you can open to a new plan and then all sorts of new solutions are revealed..

Have you boxed yourself in lately?  Are  you jockeying between limited choices and none that really satisfy you? “I can’t do this because . . ., but I can’t do that either because . . .”

Ask yourself this. “If I had no limitations, what would be the ideal solution?”  Almost certainly it will alert you to a third choice (or more) that, although you probably wouldn’t have ever considered it before, will provide you with all the desires of your heart.


ELF Quotes

invisible-man” ‘Has he totally lost his mind?” I hear you say that a lot when someone’s bizarre behavior puzzles you – and the answer is, believe it or not, ‘yes” – except for the “totally” part. Your human mind has some limitations – some boundaries – and it can get so confused within those boundaries that it loses its ability to reason, at least temporarily. When that happens, your human behavior is apt to get a bit strange. But the good news is – ultimately you are intimately connected to Divine Mind which is always steady, sure, sensible, kind, intelligent, joyful and a whole bunch of adjectives that are only used in Eternity. So – relax – no one can lose his or her mind forever. Infinite hope abounds. ” – The ELF


non-violent-women“I find myself fascinated by the ads on your televisions for new cars that have automatic braking systems. They stop the car before you run into something or someone and that can only be a good thing. Do you know you have an internal braking system that will also keep you out of trouble if you’re awake enough to recognize it? It’s ME! I will always send you a signal to stop in time – a really bad feeling that clearly means STOP – CAUTION NEEDED HERE. All you have to do is learn to pay attention to that feeling and act accordingly” – THE ELF


23438_wrensite_dancingsnoopy“How often to you feel this kind of “vibrating happy” like one of your most outstanding contemporary philosophers is illustrating below? Not to often, I know because I am you and you are me, everywhere and always. You came to planet earth to be happy – but happy doesn’t always have to mean giddy. Often happiness expresses itself in a simple sigh – a sigh of satisfaction for a completed task, a sigh of enjoyment over something that tickles one of your senses, a sigh of wonder when you see something beautiful. It’s perfectly OK to sigh your way happy.” – The ELF


spiritual-awakening35  “If you are an American, today your world is tinged with fear because a terrorist attack has taken place in New York City – and another possibly in New Jersey and another possibly in Minnesota. It feels to you that your safety is in jeopardy and it’s not a good feeling. Take a minute to send love and energy to your fellow human beings (the other parts of you) that have been injured. Take another minute to send compassionate thoughts to the many troubled souls around the world that are drawn to violence, – AND THEN PUT THE WHOLE SUBJECT OUT OF YOUR MIND. Your world, your personal world, will be much safer if you think thoughts of peace, love, joy and kindness consistently – THE ELF


spiritual-awakening-4   “True, the you that you can see in the mirror may or may not feel very powerful on any given day – but when you remember that I am you and you are me, everywhere and always – and – that through me you are intimately connected to all of the POWER OF THE UNIVERSE, then there is nothing that you sincerely want that you can’t be, do or have. Of course you have to stay connected, just like a lamp has to stay plugged in to fully shine, but once you get the hang of it – “Oh the Places You’ll Go!” – The ELF

A New Perspective

Sandy's ELF -7In  GO TO ELF! – Connecting With The Eternal Life Force, the ELF speaks to Tony about the importance of focusing on what he wants and not what he doesn’t want by pointing out to him the changes his Father made in his thinking that allowed him to win the lottery..

“Would you be interested in knowing why your father won the lottery this time, Tony, when he’s been buying a ticket every week since the Florida Lottery began in 1988 and never won before?”

“Yeah. I’d be very interested in knowing that.”

“Every time Luca bought a lottery ticket, he informed me by the simple act of buying the ticket that he would like to win the lottery. But at the same time he bought every one of those tickets, he would also say to himself or to anyone who would listen, ‘I don’t know why I’m wasting my money on this ticket, because the chances of me winning the lottery are somewhere between slim and none.’”

“That’s true,” Tony said. “I’ve heard him say that myself.”

“Time after time, he took a step toward what he wanted by buying the ticket, and at exactly the same time, he took a step back from what he wanted by believing there was almost no chance he would win. Almost everyone does the same thing, Tony, not just Luca. I call it ‘yes-no thinking.’ It’s like trying to drive a bus with the gas and the brake on at the same time. It doesn’t work.

“But this time was different, because this time, Luca was in a very good mood when he bought his weekly lottery ticket and thought to himself, I have a feeling this is my lucky ticket. I’m really ready to be a big winner this time. Then he put the ticket in his pocket and forgot about it. In fact, his winning ticket was for last Wednesday’s drawing, but he didn’t even look at it until Saturday to see if he’d won.”

Positive thinking when partnered with positive emotions can change the course of history. In Luca’s case, that one energetic positive thought made his life better, along with the lives of his brother, his son and his niece.  And in turn, their good fortune rubbed off on others close to them.

Law of Attraction1As a strong believer in the Law of Attraction personally, I don’t think, I KNOW that the formula for living a life filled with grace and goodness is to focus on what I want and not what I don’t want. So to that end, I’ve decided to become an “anti-terrorist.” I will replace all thoughts of terrorism and it’s negative effect on my world – with thoughts of altruism and it’s positive effect on my world.

I will focus on kindness – because it works. I will focus on generosity – because it works. I will focus on compassion – because it works. I will focus on gratitude – because it works. I will focus on prayer – because it works.

I have created a little chart for myself to include all my waking hours – and I’ve been setting my phone, hour by hour, to remind me to take an inventory of my thoughts to see if I am keeping to my commitment to focus on a world steeped in altrusim.  So far, unless I was deeply involved in a work process, I have to report that when the alarm sounded, my mind was not focused on the positive ideas dictated by my commitment.  Instead the intoxication of the race-consciousness and the pervasian of media – social and broadcast – had redirected my attention to some upsetting happening taking place in my immediate environment or in my community or my world.

However, I’m still new at this and I am beginning to see improvement. The fact that I am noticing how easily and how often my thoughts are hijacked by negative events or conversations is a step in the right direction. And then, because of my self-imposed interruption, I take am committed to taking an immediate positive step toward my goal. I select one of the five activities contained in my commitment and I act on it no matter what else is going on.

Prayers and Blessings are the easiest activities to grasp quickly.  I always can afford a few seconds to bless a fellow human being, or creature or my planet without even breaking the rhythm of my current task.  I can offer an Affirmative Prayer or make an Affirmation with equal ease, such as I AM A HAPPY, HEALTHY, WEALTHY CHILD OF GOD.  Better yet to shore up my wavering faith – I AM INTIMATELY CONNECTED TO ALL OF THE POWER OF THE UNIVERSE.

The next easiest item in my intention statement to implement would be Gratitude – within my reach are always many things for which to be grateful starting with the tools of my trade – computers, telephones, calendars, pencils, paper, calculators, the Internet.

Sometimes, when the timer goes off I’m in a position to commit to an act of kindness – especially if I happen to be driving or shopping or if  I’m with loved ones.  Acts of Kindness are best accomplished if they are spontaneous.  They can be simple acts like letting someone else have the nearest parking space or my place in line, or a bit more time- consuming, like stopping to help someone that I am awake enough to notice could use a hand. Taking a moment to speak a kind word to someone who is serving me, or to public servant like a police officer or a crossing guard also works and the feel-good factor makes up for the time spent in being kind.

Compassion takes a little more commitment from me.  Observing behavior that I don’t like, such as a parent who is hard on a child, someone who is close to abusing a pet, a driver engaged in road rage, a bully, someone who is intoxicated – doesn’t spontaneously evoke a feeling of compassion in me.  More often I feel more compelled to give that person a piece of my mind in as unfriendly manner as their own – but I know better.  That person is also hurting and my piling on the hurt isn’t going to help either of us.  Compassion doesn’t mean I won’t take an action of some sort to stop the mean act if necessary, but it does mean that in doing so, I must also understand that soul is a victim of his or her own thinking and needs help not blame.

Finally, I understand that generosity is an act that primarily benefits me – if I give in the true nature of altruism – which is to give solely because it feels good.  I can give my time, my talent or my money, as long as I realize that I will receive in turn in the manner I give. So if I’m short of time, it will be helpful for me to give a little bit of the time I have.  If I’m sort of money, money is what I am wise to give.  And if I’m short of any other kind of supply, sharing my own talents will provide me with like talents in the future.  I always have something to give – always – and giving because it feels good simply enhances my overall joy of life.

Have you too been asking what you can do, right now to make life easier, happier, better for yourself and others?  If so you might want to try adopting altruism as your modus operendo for the next little while. Focus on kindness, generosity, compassion, gratitude and prayer and affirmation and you will be so busy harboring positive thoughts, less savory ones will begin to fade out of your existence.  Not only will they, they have no other choice.  You simply can’t be kind, grateful, generous, compassionate and loving – and be unhappy at the same time.





Stirring Up the Chi

The ELF teaches us that we create in three ways – by our thoughts, by our words and by our actions. This might be just the right time of year to create using all three. Mid-winter tends to be a time of low energy for many people. The “fun” part of winter is pretty much over and the four or five weeks the groundhog says we need to wait for spring to arrive feels like the far distant future.

But there are some things , really fun things, we can do to create new energy using thought, words and actions. According to the rules of Feng Shui, the ancient Chinese art of placement, we can create energy by placing in our living and working spaces things that move (or have the potential to move) and in doing so, our internal energy gets a boost as well. You probably already own the things you need to create the element of movement in a new place; so it’s just a matter of thinking about where they may be and deciding how to place them to provide the effect you desire.

bagua(nos)3 Feng Shui also teaches that there are areas in every “space”, whether that “space” is a single room or an entire piece of property, that draw specific types of energy. Using the Bagua map, which defines those spaces, you can see, for example that if you stand at the doorway of your office or the room in your home you wish to energize, holding the map in front of you, that the area that attracts prosperity will be to your far left, the area that enhances relationships to the far right, etc.

Following the guidance of the map, you can bring new energy or “activate the chi” in any area of your room by placing in it an object that moves or has the potential to move. So if you wish to shake up the level of prosperity in your life at the moment, simply identify the area that draws prosperity and place in it a or a musical instrument or a pretty wind chime, a lava lamp or a small fountain. Then sit for a moment and enjoy your newly energized space. Take a minute to recall times in your life when you have felt extremely prosperous and give thanks for those times – out loud if you wish to take full advantage of the energy of the spoken word. Finally, visualize new prosperity pouring in your direction right now and also giving thanks for that.

goldfish2 If it is one or more of your relationships that you wish to energize, add a pair of small plants with soft leaves that move when you touch them, or add a pair of music boxes, a pair of bells, or if you are really serious, a pair of live goldfish or a pair of love birds in their own cage. When the items you choose are in place, sit quietly and recall the best times in past relationships that you can remember and give thanks for them. Then picture the ideal relationships for you right now and give thanks for that as well.

Feeling like you would like to increase your attention to Spirituality? Choose the left hand corner closest to you as you stand at the door of the room and add a water container with a floating candle in it, or burn some incense in that corner. When the candle has been lit or the incense is burning, treat yourself to a few moments of gentle meditation, giving thanks as you release the outer world for the guidance of The ELF in YoursELF, all the time, without fail, 24/7/365, eternally.

Other items that represent movement might include music boxes, ticking clocks, radios, telephones, cd’s and instruments of aroma therapy and of course, pets of every variety. A cat will constantly stir the energy in every corner of every house and dogs bring exciting loving energy wherever they are.

Stirring up the chi is energizing and exciting and uplifting and shopping for the best kinds of energetic items in your own home is great fun. You’ll probably want to carry your bagua map from room to room and stir up the chi in more than one place. And helping a friend who is going through a rough spot to draw some much needed fresh energy can be a true act of kindness – as long as they are open to receiving your unique gift.

To learn more about energizing the chi for other reasons, such as selling a property, or recovering from an illness, you will enjoy Terah Kathryn Collin’s book – The Western Guide to Feng Shui http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B005LB8NDY/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?ie=UTF8&btkr=1

Sandy's ELF -7 This is the time of year when many people, from many lands, celebrate what they loosely call “The Holidays”, but I’ll be honest with you, most of you have long ago forgotten what it is that you are celebrating and why; and I can feel how that confusion tempers your genuine joy. It doesn’t have to be that way, and it is my hope, in this short “Holiday” message, to clear some of that confusion up for you.

Most of you tag part of your celebration to a religious story of some sort – the birth of a baby, the exodus of souls, the remembering of sacred traditions, celebrations of light, even ancient Pagen celebrations, but once a required bit of attention has been given to those historical rites and rituals, the rest of the celebrations involves food and drink, fellowship and exchanging gifts. The various parts of the whole celebration become entirely disconnected, (Santa Claus, for example, never delivers presents to the baby Jesus – the two parts of the celebration are entirely disconnected.)

Well, let me help you to let go of whatever guilt that age old practice of confused thinking lays on you while you’re having a very good time. Religious Holidays (even the rites and rituals) and have very little to do with anything that is actually Divine. God (The Eternal Life Force) did not invent religion; human beings did. Religion is a human practice (in fact its hundreds of different human practices). Human beings align with various religious organizations in an effort to feel closer to God (The Eternal Life Force), but The Eternal Life Force has nothing to do with religious organizations or practices, nor does The Eternal Life Force judge them good or bad. No religion is the favorite of The Eternal Life Force, nor the least favorite. And – no followers of any religion have any higher standing with The Eternal Life Force than any other – God, or The Creator and Sustainer of all Life – loves all It’s creations equally.

Religions invoke the name of God or the Eternal Life Force to give them credibility and to exercise power over their followers. The Eternal Life Force does not require credibility – it just is and it has no need to exercise power over anyone or anything.

If celebrations inspire peace and love and joy and inclusivity of all others, then they are, one and all, Spiritual Practices and they greatly benefit those who practice them. If they fall short of those characteristics, they are pretty much meaningless exercises.

teach peace But, you ask, what of the great teachers we’ve been taught to admire? Should we not celebrate them?

Most of them – Jesus, Abraham, Lao Tsu, Buddha, Mohammed and hundreds more, great and small, would like it far better if you followed the paths they recommended, practiced what they taught and enjoyed what they were about while they were here, than they would to have you worship them now that they have released their humanity and returned to Spirit. What made them great teachers was that they set an example by their actions. They took their direction from The Eternal Life Force every minute of every day, and followed that guidance to the letter. Can you say the same? What are the real teachings of your favorite teacher? Did he or she judge others outrageously, and punish them for the mistakes? Of course not. Did he forgive others? Well, did he encourage you to do the same? Do you? Did he do good deeds, pray silently and without fanfare, go the extra mile, turn the other cheek, align his thoughts with Holy thoughts, spend much of his time in quite contemplation and gratitude? Was the ground he traversed Holy ground because he believed all ground to be Holy?

You came to this planet to be happy, to experience the best of this beautiful place and to play with each other in the most interesting ways. As long as you are doing that, living your dreams, following your passions, caring for your own environment, your neighbors and your friends, you are living your precious life to the fullest. You simply can’t get closer to The Eternal Life Force than that and it requires no ritual or dogma or rite to accomplish, it requires only the celebration of you.

Compassion 1 The one thing you can be absolutely sure of, and ALWAYS CELEBRATE, is that you are greatly loved, by me, your Higher Self, The ELF in yoursELF. And you are dearly loved by The Eternal Life Force, by your Angels and Guides and by the Spirits of all the ancient mystics. We all want you to set aside your petty differences, your judgments, your fears of each other, your need to compete rather than cooperate, your need to fight rather than to negotiate, and begin to embrace your commonalities. Celebrate the ways in which you can agree and build on those. Make every day a celebration of all that is good and pure and loving. Do it for yourself and do it for humanity. Then, every day will be a Holiday, simply because you make it one.

The deep down joy you seek is already in you, and only you can bring it out to share with others – 365 Blessed Days a year.

The Eternal Life Force loves you and so do I – The ELF in yoursELF.

Go to ELF! book cover_2nd edition (2) (2) In “Go to ELF – Connecting with the Eternal Life Force” – Tony receives a large gift of money from his Father that mysteriously equals exactly the amount of money he needs to open his new Graphic Design office – and he can’t figure out how that happened.

The explanation, found in Chapter ll, is very revealing. Tony realizes that for some period of time, based on an article he had read in a leading business journal, he had been practicing the prosperity engendering technique of “expecting unexpected income”, and because he had put the system in place in his consciousness well in advance, when his Father won the lottery and decided to share it with Tony, the amount of the gift he received was exactly what Tony needed at exactly the time he needed it.

A good prosperity consciousness is based on FAITH – Faith that the Universe, orchestrated by our own highest level of consciousness, knows what we need at every given life moment, and to the extent that we accept that concept unconditionally, our needs will be delivered to our door. We can ask for what we want, if we choose, but the asking is primarily for the purpose of clarifying our desires in our own minds. Spirit doesn’t require our prompting. Our prayers then, would be better couched in words of gratitude for what we are about to receive.

Jesus, the Master Teacher tried to tell us that when he clearly stated”
” … And when you are praying, do not use meaningless repetition as the Gentiles do, for they suppose that they will be heard for their many words. “So do not be like them; for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.” Matthew 6: 7,8

and –

Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” Mark, 11:25

A “Go to ELF” reader recently shared her experience with “expecting unexpected income” with us and it is inspiring.

Diane Marie wrote: “All things happen for a reason. I ordered my glasses about 1 1/2 weeks ago. Today received a call telling me that my order was deleted from their system accidentally and I needed to come in again. While I was there, I found a frame I liked better than the one I picked out the last time and then got I a credit for $35 off my eye exam because they didn’t offer me the AARP discount the first time. How does it get better than that? Well, I found my Sketchers GoWalk shoes on sale and was able to use a $30 Cash Bonus Credit so I was able to get them for about half of what I had been pricing them for! All in all a great day. As The Elf would say – “expect unexpected income”!

Most of us were raised to believe that only hard work (and possibly a good education) guarded the door to obtaining a high level of prosperity. Not so. Nothing determines the level of our income stream except what we believe determines it. We fix our own incomes by our pre-set mind-sets about money; And if we want to change that mind-set, teacher’s abound to help us do that.

To get a taste of some of the ways our mind-sets are set in place without our even realizing it, visit the “Go to ELF” web site at http://www.gotoelf.com and read the first six chapters FREE. Then if you’d like to know more, including a very simple formula for drawing into your life experience more of what you want to accomplish – and the key to successfully “expecting unexpected income”, you can order the book directly from the Web site – or on Kindle at Amazon.com.

“I don’t mean to be dense, or rude for that matter,”
Tony said, “but the concept that getting anything I want is a simple as A-B-C just seems too simple”.

Sandy's ELF -7“Well, Tony,” the ELF replied, “There just isn’t anything I can do to make it more complicated for you”

Truth is simple. It simply is.

Sandy's ELF -7Last night, I had the joy of participating in a radio interview on MPowerRadio with hostess Linda Ballesteros. I thoroughly enjoyed talking about “Go to ELF! with a new reader, one who had just met Tony and Molly and Frankie and Anna, and most significantly, The ELF in hersELF. Here is the link to that interview, so that you can hear how our conversation unfolded.


One theme, that I find comes up in conversation often and was the kick-off subject for Linda, is the realization that no matter what happened to us in our childhood, no matter how good or bad that was, we can assume complete responsibility for what happens in our adulthood; specifically the way we conduct ourselves through the changing circumstances that affect the rest of our lives. Of course, fulfilling that responsibility is easier and more effective if we exercise it in tandem with THE ELF.

As part of the interview, Linda wondered if she had stayed in her job in the banking industry, even though vast changes occurred in the way her job was structured, longer than she might have liked to because she was still trying to please her parents. Interesting question. We have all had the experience of knowing, somehow, that whatever we have invested in so far is not really working for us any longer, whether it is a career or a relationship or an investment or an avocation; and yet we have continued down the same road because it was familiar and making a change was scary.

To avoid doing that again, no matter what our age and no matter what our focus – it’s always a good time to ask ourselves two vital questions: “What am I doing?” and then “Why am I doing it?”

Why am I investing in this particular activity? Does it really benefit me? Am I doing it to please myself, or someone else? Am I trying to prove something to myself or someone else? Do I look forward to doing it? Am I happy continuing in this direction? Is the only reason I stay here because I’m afraid to make a change?

If the answer is anything other than: It pleases me to do this job, invest in this relationship, continue this fitness program, stay with this volunteer activity, follow this course of study, continue indulging in this habit, then you might want to take a step back and notice what kind of return you are getting on your investment. If your pursuits, personal or professional, are of value to you and pleasurable for you to continue, then by all means, full speed ahead. But if they are not, at least consider what you would rather be doing instead and what could be your first step toward that new goal.

The ELF teaches us that we came to planet earth to have fun. Fun doesn’t have to be your only priority, and fun means different things to different people, but you should always like, really like, what you spend significant amounts of your time doing.

You only have one life, at least this time on planet earth. Doesn’t it seem wise to plan to really enjoy the ride?